Self-talk.  That incessant voice inside our head.  All day, every day.

Words that have energy and power.

Imagine having a dog who only does what dogs do.  And you constantly criticized every dog action, every dog movement, every dog thing.   Bad dog.  Dumb dog.  Why are you doing that dog thing?  How do you think over time, that dog would act?  Defeated.  Cowering.  Maybe even displaying more “bad” behaviors.

Now, let’s think about your self-talk?  What do you say to yourself when you do human things?

• Spill your coffee on your clothes?  Do you criticize yourself?  Beat yourself up? Forecast that your entire day is now ruined?   Or, perhaps you are a little kinder and gentle and just say oops.
• Forget to email a colleague?  Do you tell yourself you always forget everything and are a loser?  Other mean unhelpful things?  Or perhaps, you forgive yourself and email it with a simple apology.
• Lose your patience?   What story are you telling yourself about losing your patience?  That you’re just like your mother?  That you can’t do anything right?  Or, maybe you take a breath, forgive yourself, apologize, and try again.

We’re all human.  We all spill, forget, and lose our patience (among other things).  It’s how we internally respond with our self-talk that will either lift us up or drive us down.   When we begin paying attention to our self-talk, we may feel horrified at what’s been going on between our ears!  Then you have a wonderful opportunity to practice changing the unkind self-talk.

At Quantum Balance Erie, we call it mindset management and have many different ways to help you learn how to pay attention to the self-talk and begin being kinder to yourself.   It may be through a Quantum Balance Session with Lois, over time at qigong classes,  during coaching/mentoring, or at one of our many community classes. It’s a practice to unravel the unkind self-talk and it is ALWAYS worth it.     You are worth it.

You can click here to schedule a session with Lois.  http://quantumbalanceerie.fullslate.com/

No more “bad dog”   <3